Dear Edith

I don’t know if I am e-mailing the right person, but, I was looking through your website trying to find out who gets gratuity and how much to give at a wedding??

Is there any guidelines you can give me to help with this? Thank you.


Yes, you tip the maitre d’, the chef if you wish, the parking attendants, the coat checkers, usually the musicians, especially if they play overtime.

Discuss tipping in advance with the caterer, which is usually 20%. There is no harm in bringing this question out in the open before the wedding. You do NOT tip the photographer, florist. but you may tip anyone who has gone out of the way to make the evening a success. I hope this helps.