Dear Edith
Because of our non-traditional relationship, we had a child 7 yrs ago and are now getting married in a small ceremony where the Chapel holds 50. I would like to have a big celebration New Year’s Eve inviting others who will not be invited to the ceremony (the same day) and instruct them not to bring gifts but to celebrate the nuptials of J & D. What does etiquette say about inviting to party but not ceremony and would it be wrong to have the traditions of reception like cake cutting, flower toss, etc.?
Answer
Thank you for writing. Your small wedding ceremony in a chapel sounds lovely. Please contact Family medallions, www.familymedallion.com They have suggestions in ways to include your child. If you want to have a New Year’s Eve party go ahead, but it has nothing to do with your marriage and the whole idea sounds contrived and awkward.
-Edith